Why finding calm isn’t what most people think.
I always thought the big shift would feel… well, big.
Like something dramatic.
A lightning bolt moment.
A breakthrough so clear it would snap everything into place.
But when it finally happened, it was nothing like that.
It was quiet.
Almost forgettable.
It was unexpected.
I was about a week into my Vipassana retreat – meditating from 4am to 10pm every day – when something shifted.
I stopped eating.
Not because I was trying to fast or prove anything.
I simply didn’t feel the need.
For three days, I stayed in my small room, doing my walking and sitting meditations.
On the fourth morning, at 6:30am, I felt the gentle urge to eat.
So, I did.
And while eating – spoon to mouth – chew – swallow… I suddenly understood something my teacher had said:
“Make your whole life a meditation.”
There was no effort.
No “doing.”
Just complete presence in the smallest, most ordinary act.
And in that moment… I wasn’t observing mindfulness.
I was it.
It didn’t last long.
But it changed everything.
Not because I discovered a secret.
But because I realised calm isn’t something to chase.
It’s something that returns when we stop resisting.
When we stop trying so hard.
When we make room for stillness… even in the middle of everyday living.
Where in your life might you be chasing calm rather than allowing it to return?
Sometimes, the effort to find peace becomes the very thing keeping it away.
This gentle approach of creating space rather than forcing transformation is at the heart of everything we explore at The Being Studio.
Not techniques to master or systems to follow, just quiet moments of coming back to what’s already there.
What stands out to me now, looking back, is how simple and unpolished the experience was.
It wasn’t some grand realisation or dramatic turning point.
It was honest. Subtle. Human.
There was no method to unlock.
No story crafted to impress.
Just moments of stillness that came when I finally stopped trying so hard.
And maybe that’s what gets lost in all the noise today.
The reminder that real calm doesn’t need to be taught, branded, or earned.
It’s already there, underneath it all.
It always has been.
What stands out to me now… what strikes me most about that morning isn’t what happened, but what didn’t need to happen.
If this story resonates with you — if you’ve been chasing calm and wondering why it always seems just out of reach — you’re not alone.
That’s why I created the 7-Day Calm Plan — not to fix you, but to gently help you come back to yourself.
It’s free, simple, and takes just a few minutes a day.
No pressure. No perfect way to do it.
Just small steps toward the calm that’s already within you.
👉 Start the Calm Plan here